3 Steps to Saving Your Relationship When Your Partner Says “I don’t love you and I want out of the relationship”.
You are not alone, we are here to help you.
I often get calls and emails from people who are desperate to save their relationship.
I am writing this for folks who are really worried about loosing their partner
When are partner first tells us there’s something very wrong with the relationship and that
they want to leave the first natural response is to feel extremely upset. When we act from fear and desperation often times we say and do things that are very harmful to what we are trying to get to happen. Our responses may move our partner even further away from us.
1. Find someone to help you get through this
To deal with your panic and fear it’s often helpful to find someone that you can confide in. It may be a family member friend clergyman or therapist. It really helps to have someone that can help you get through this. However it can contribute to the problem if you find the wrong person. This person should be called and help you think things through and assist you in figuring out what’s in your own best interest.
2. Deal with your panic.
Find ways to calm yourself down. Here are some suggestions:
- Diversion – find something that will get your mind off of your troubles at least for little while
Caution: Some people may use alcohol or drugs to get their mind of the problems that will only make things worse.
C. The practice of yoga can also be extremely helpful.
D. Find ways to nurture yourself. Do something that you like to do and it makes you feel good.
3. Take an inventory of the difficulties that your partner has identified.
Don’t beg, or try and convince your partner that they’re wrong with that you will change, that will only make things worse and may well end up in an argument.
Just be different. Here’s a place to start:
List 3 things that your partner is upset about
Rate yourself each day on a scale of 1 – 5 how well you are doing. Be patient this may take a month or two or even longer.
Give me a call or send me an me know how you are doing
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