How To Get The Most Out of Therapy and Make Therapy Short Term. (Part III of III parts):
Self Evaluation Form for Getting the Most from Couples’ Counseling Sessions
In this last blog I will give the fourth guideline and I will also share the form that I use with couples in counseling so that they can figure out for themselves how effective they are being in counseling. This form can give the tools for anyone who is in couples’ counseling to cause the most change in the shortest period of time.
Talk about your response and not how wrong the other person is.
Explanation:
If your partner feels attacked they will most likely respond defensively. When people are defensive
they justify, attack or withdraw or do all three. To make progress people have to listen and understand and that is far more likely to happen if a person talks about their own feelings and reactions.
Below is my Self Evaluation Form – Which will help a couple get the most out of their counseling session.
Self Evaluation Form for Getting The Most From Counseling Sessions.
1. I keep my answers and comments short.
1…………2……..3………4……..5…….6………7
(not true) (very true)
2. There was respect during our session.
1…………2……..3………4……..5…….6………7
(not true) (very true)
3. Even though I may totally disagree with my partner,
I am able to repeat my partner’s point of view accurately.
1…………2……..3………4……..5…….6………7
(not true) (very true)
4. I talked about my response and not how wrong the
other person was.
1…………2……..3………4……..5…….6………7
(not true) (very true)