Dr. Marty
Couples counseling or marriage therapy is inexpensive in comparison to what it costs you to lose the person you love and your family.
Let us give you the best chance to stay together happily
Fees
Making Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy Affordable
(We do individual therapy as well)
Fees for Marriage Counseling / Couples Counseling
$80 to $195, depending on which therapist you see.
Couples may also decide on “Jump Start sessions,” (click for info) which are longer and more intense, when a couple has long standing problems or there is a great deal of either hostility or “non communication.” Jump Start Sessions range from $160 – $390. (depending on which counselor you work with)
Dr. Marty’s Fees:
(To learn more about Dr. Marty’s background click here)
Traditional Session $195 (50 minutes)
JumpStart Session $390 (100 minutes)
Three ways to make marriage counseling & Couples therapy affordable
1. You can see your therapist every other week and this can also help reduce your expenses.
2. Whenever possible, we try and focus on short term work. My average number of sessions for couples range from 7 to 9 meetings. In certain situations it could take fewer or more sessions. The more you work on the process the greater our progress.
3. As therapy progresses our meetings are further apart, which both tests how well things are going and spaces out the payment.
We also accept credit and debit cards.
There is one more way to help make therapy affordable by progressing more quickly and delving into the problems in a more intense time wise way. Even though initially Intensive Jumpstart Sessions are more expensive (two sessions), we can tackle the biggest problems first and still have time to move along to the other issues. This can help us move forward much more rapidly and it becomes worth the investment. To learn more
Please give me a call 1(888) 281-5850 or send me an email and fill out the box on the right side of this page, and I will respond to you as soon as I can. I apologize if weekends take a little longer.
Take Care,
Looking forward to talking with you,
Dr. Marty
1(888) 281-5850
Do you take insurance. Cause I have Independenc Blue Cross
We would be considered an out of network provider. Also please feel free to go to: http://yourmarriagecounselor.com/category/what-will-be-covered-during-counseling to see a short video on How to select a good counselor.
I would be an out of network provider
Me & my fiancce r having problems! I cheated on her in the summer of 2011. I prepose to her in December! But she’s still bringing up the issue of me cheating! How can we surive?
Relationships can be saved even after being unfaithful, but it would be advisable to seek outside help to deal with anger and trust issues, and other things
that may also be causing problems. If you care about the relationship, you have find a resource to help you understand and get the skills to stop this from having this
happen again.
I am a very open and honest person. My boyfriend who I love very much has lied to me at least 3 times which I called him out on. Now it is hard for me to trust and believe him. I am carrying his baby and we have plans to be together in the future and now I am not sure if I want to be with him anymore. I usually leave a relationship when lying is an issue but I feel stressed and vulnerable and worried about making a wrong move with the baby on the way. He says he does not want the relationship to end but I don’t know if it would work.
Hi Leah,
My first question to you is “Do you want the relationship to work?” If the answer is “yes”, under what conditions do you want the relationship to work?”
If the conditions aren’t met what then? – You need a specific plan, so that you can plan ahead and not have to make impulsive decisions. Ask yourself “Do I need professional help to answer these questions. So my message to you is first you need to answer the questions I’ve outlined and then you can go from there.
Feel free to email the answers and we can go from there.
Dr. Marty
My husband and I have been married 10 years. But for the last 6 months, he has been saying we don’t get along, and he’s not happy and he’s tired of fighting with me(because he has started drinking ALOT). Is this marriage worth saving?
Dear Bec,
Only you know the answer to that question. To find the right answer, ask your self “Do I still love him?”
If the answer is “yes”, then run don’t walk to a counselor that has experience with drinking issues and ask for help.
Take care and good luck,
Dr. Marty
Me and my wife are having problems dealing with me having so much anger. We are married 3 years and a torso of 5 years together! I found a prepaid cell in her bag and she claims it’s her best friends. It contained messages with different guys! I believe her but I have so much anger and it’s leading me to not believe what she has told me! It’s been 1 month and we are happy one day and upset the next day now it seem one min happy the next bad! Is my marriage going down the drain?
Hi Aaron,
That’s a decision only you can make from your heart. You both need to sit down and make a list of why you want your marriage to work and figure out how strong those reasons are. Unless the reasons are very strong your marriage will not survive. If you really want your relationship to work you need to find a counselor who is willing to work with you that you trust and must meet regularly with. You have to realize that there are no easy answers and have to ask yourselves to you have what it takes to rebuild from wreckage that has been caused as a result of your behaviors.
my husband and i have communicating n understanding issues alot has come about sense weve been married he tends to loose his temper on certain issues to one point where he got violent
Hi Lee,
To answer your question more fully it would be helpful to know three things:
1) How ofter does this happen?
2) What does he do when he get’s violent?
3) What do you do when he is violent?
Looking forward to your answer so I can respond to your concern.
Dr. Marty
My fiancé and I have a child together and he has also been the “father figure” to my child from a previous relationship since she was a baby. We have been together close to 2yrs and for at least the first year he was 100% unfaithful but I stuck around for fear of what breaking the bond he had with my daughter would do to her(stupid) and I know there was my own reasons for staying as well. Problem is, once I got pregnant (unplanned) I felt like I should try and make the best of it. I don’t feel the way I used to for him, I guess like that saying “I love him but I’m not IN love with him.” I want to have the old sparks and butterflies but I can barely bring myself to be intimate, please help me…
Hi Theresa,
It is very difficult to gain that old spark once you have been betrayed by unfaithfulness, but it can be done.
The answer is that it will take lots and lots of work by both of you. You need to sit down with a professional and figure out together what went wrong and how the two of you together can rebuild what has been broken
It will be difficult and only you can decide if you are willing and able to put in the time and the effort.
Hi Dr MArty,I face the same problem with my husband,to answere your 3 questions,A1-initially happened once in a few months, then once in a month & now every week or every other day.A2-he gets very mad at me after 5-10 mins of talking,doesn’t want to listen to what I have to say,easily comes to wrong conclusions & then gets violent,physically throwing me or striking me.A3-I used to be shocked initially & get very depressed but last 2-3 years have started getting mad at him for the way he is treating me which rises my temper & this doesn’t quieten him & problem gets worse.We are married 16 years & am at my breaking point now willing to give up if not for my sons.He is not willing to come for councelling.
Dear Jha,
At this point the ball is in your court. You have 3 choices:
1. You can stay in the relationship and just reconcile yourself that this is the way he is going to be.
This is a dangerous choice because things usually get worse at everyone is at risk.
2. You can separate or file for divorce or if you can’t do either (divorce or accept)
3. You should talk to a professional counselor to help you figure out what to do next.
The next move is yours, remember even not deciding is making a decision.
Dr. Marty-
After the 12 most amazing married years of my life, I found my wife had multiple sexual contacts with multiple partners all during the last year. Some of the details of those encounters are staggering, even to a relatively modern and open-minded man such as me. Even though I have told her I am not willing to move forward because of the trust, betrayal and risk issues, she continues to pursue this destroyed marriage. Neither of us can afford to move out, and the divorce papers will be filed this week. She continues to push for a sexual relationship, and will not let go of what I have deemed a dead thing. Now she is saying that we should get counseling.
Will counseling help us, or will we be spending money we really don’t have just to reiterate what I already know- that I cannot be happy in a relationship with this woman who I truly believe will simply repeat her behavior? Her history suggests she will, it ended her last marriage as well.
Counseling will help if you both are willing to work at it.
You have a great deal of negative history, but success is up to you. Are you both willing to do what it takes to make things work. If you had a serious illness how hard would you work to be cured? Counseling and positive guided behavior must be a priority and a central focus of both of your lives
I have been married for 7 years now and have never been an emotional person. My wife knew this but she is sick of feeling neglected. I love her but just can’t reach down and grab what isn’t there to show her. We are drifting farther apart because of it she is ready to move on unless I can change. Is marriage counseling for me or do I need a more specific type of therapy?
Thanks
Hello and thank you for taking my question. We have been married almost 33yrs, recent empty nesters~over the past 2 and7 yrs, between our two kids; husband ha tremendous stress at work and has distanced himself from me emotionally and physically for years. And if that wre nt enough, I have several chronic illness, including MS and; am on permanent disabity. There ae other bits and pieces as well. But, I thought that was enough to overwhelm anyone in a singe question. I’ve been to counseling off and on by myself.My husband is very a
to therapy. I need to get him into therapy with me, to save our marriagbe. I want us to reconnect and try to find that love we had before. I want us to be together supportive of each as well as for our children as they marry and start their families!
Can you offer us anything that might get my husband to counseling for the good of us all
Thanks so very much.
Maggie
Hi Maggie,
Thanks so much for your question I get this situation a lot. I’ll do the best I can to answer your question. I would approach your situation by you going to counseling first. When you come into counseling there may be things about your relationship that you have never thought of before that a trained counselor can help you with. Also in counseling you can learn ways of approaching your husband that you might not be aware of. When folks say to me “I’ve tried everything” my response is you’ve tried everything that you know; here are some ideas that you may not be aware of”. As your husband sees you changing or understanding him more, he is more inclined to either go into counseling or better yet change his reaction to your response to him.
Maggie, if you go to the center of the home page you can take a look at the section that says
“Here is what I (Dr. Marty) can teach you even if your partner doesn’t come for counseling” Also in the center of the home page is a four minute video that will also talk about what can be done if only one person comes for counseling
Instead of having a battle over counseling take the initiative and you go and see how you can be the trigger for change.
Good luck,
Dr. Marty
Hello Dr. Marty, my husband and I are having a tough time. We are opposites…I am the responsible one and he is the fun one. Being opposites had always seemed to work for us. He keeps me young and I take care of him. He is very irresponsible with money and can be very materialistic. Now that we are older I want to get our affairs in line so that we can start a family. My husband wants children and a home of our own but he doesn’t seem to understand why our affairs need to be in order first Our plan for this year was to pay off debt to put us in a better financial position for having a family. Last week he opened a new credit account and made a large purchase without consulting me. He admits that he didnt tell me becausd he knew I would say no and regrets his actions because of how upset I became but still believes that it is not a big deal. I also presented him the scenario in reverse and he also claims that he would not have a problem if I had done that to him. I love him si much but I am ready go grow and I feel like we don’t share the same goal, even though he’ll say otherwise. I’m not sure how to move forward.
Hi Marie,
To see my answer please go to my blog entry for July 18, 2012.
Please email me back and let me know what you think.
Good luck,
Dr. Marty
Hi Dr. Marty,
I have been married for almost 10 years. Even though having a loving relationship so far, last year I suspected of him cheating on me. I found out he had several accounts on social media websites. He doesnt accept nor deny. After that we are having trust issues. He wont let his ph out of sight. He blames me for everything. I have been depressed over our marriage and also issues at work. (Inspite of working hard for a long time, my co workers have been given promotions, bonuses and pay increases) All of these have been taking a toll. Another issue is ‘in-laws’. Even though being far from us, my in laws have profound effect on my husband. My husband blames me of not working on developing a good relationship with my in-laws. Eventhough living together we have huge communication issues. Simple talk becomes argument. The two main characters are missing in our marriage, Trust and Respect. Even though I feel, there is still Love, I dont see it. Even though he doesnt say of ending relationship, he is not working on anything to fix it. Please help.
I’ve often dealt with situations like these. The way to be successful is to begin to figure out where things went wrong. Sitting down with a counselor
who will help you review your relationship in detail and can help you to look at things from an objective point of view is the way to go.
You are still married so there is still a chance, if he didn’t want to be married then he would file for divorce. If there is still something between the two of you then the resentments on both sides have to be understood and dealt with and from there rebuild from what once brought you together.
Hi Dr Marthy,
Me & My husband married from last 3 years but all the time we were fighting with each other. We have lot of differences between us. Also I have lots of anger which he cannot tolerate. Also he want me to keep smiling in any situation which I feel doesn’t right. There are situations in life when u can’t be happy.
We both have given many chances to each other to change ourselves and keep our marriage. But now we have reached to the point where we dont want to continue.
Please advise.
Thanks
Hello Dr. Marty,
Thanks for taking my question. My husband and I will be married 5 years in February. I am feeling disconnected with him and we have been arguing a lot lately. We almost came to the decision to get divorced recently. We seem to get a long great most of the time, but all it takes is one disagreement and if he feels I am accusing him, or judging him, or criticizing him he gets defensive and is very offended by me. He may act out in the way of leaving the house, or trying to defend his position with a tone I don’t like which makes things worse of course and he brings up the past and old things I have said in previous arguments as if I just said them to him. He recently told me he gives up and has made few efforts to have relations in the bedroom, which made me feel uncared for and neglected, so I did not pursue any connection as well. Now he blames me for lack of intimacy. Also I tend to interrupt him when he is pleading his case. I know this is wrong on my part, & I am trying not to do it, but I will forget my thought otherwise. I know is no excuse. I told him I would like to try marriage counseling and he said it would be a waste of time & money. That he can tell me what a councilor would say and have us do. Making me feel he is of the mind set he is always right. We both have much to learn, but I feel I am at my wits end. I want to make this work, but he is just very hard headed about his opinions. He will admit when he is wrong, if he believes he is wrong. I just feel stuck between a rock & a hard place. Thanks for your time in reading this.
If he won’t go to a counselor, then you should. I’ve written an article and have a video on what can be done even if he won’t come for counseling
to read the article and see the video you can go to: http://yourmarriagecounselor.com/couples-therapy-marriage-counseling/#onlyone
Don’t let him control your behavior or decision about therapy. Don’t give up on the relationship get professional help and insight and no matter what happens you know you’ve done everything you can.
I’ve seen many situations like this and often when one person starts the ball rolling the other one follows. Also a good counselor will help you
to develop strategies that will give you the best chance at rebuilding the relationships
Good luck
Dr.Marty
I recently found out that my husband of only 4 months (but we’ve dated for 6) had an affair (approximatley 4 months) with a younger woman. He said it wasnt intentional and he didnt seek it out, but became emotionally invested in the her as he got to know her. He agrees that he took advantage of her in a vulnerable state and further stated that he wants to remains friends with her, but is committed to me/us and will have nomore romantic involvement. I have spoken with her several times and have even met with her. She is a nice person and does have some deep issues and needs guidance. I feel she has been opena nd honest with me – but it seems that aside from their physcicla relationship nothing has really changed, where as mine has changed tremendously. To some degree I feel as though I can even be friend to her – and she feels the same, but my husband’s lack of committment to cut ties with her and his constant defence of actions really still upsets me and makes me questions my actions and his honestly. I truly love him. And i dont want to get divorced. I belive him when he tells me he loves me and i can even almost handle a friendship (if i am included as well) but im still just a bit insecure with the whole thing. I feel as though i am making all the sacrifices for my marriage and my future. The wound is sill fresh and am hopeful that it will heal over time, but am still fearful. Thoughts?
Hi Marcie,
From what you describe there are some serious issues in your relationship, to ignore them will only make them worse. The best chance you have toward preserving your relationship
is with a trained counselor, who has dealt with this sort of issue. Of course I and my group are glad to be of help, but call up some therapists, (please see my free video on how to pick a good counselor on my home page for a guide on what to look for.
Good luck
Dr. Marty
Hello Sir, I have been Married for only almost 3 Months and We dated 11Months before Marriage. Now every 3-7 Days there is an major argument. Twice, My wife has become very physical with Me. Issues of My Past, that I shared with Her, She brings up in arguments. She has totally disrespected Me, on four different occasions. I’m looking for Direction, ASAP. KEV.
Hi Kevin,
A place to start would be:
1. Figuring out when this started to learn the history behind your wife’s change of behavior
2. For me (or the counselor you work with) to learn If you have approached your wife as yet about this, if so to learn in counseling, (as tone and attitude can’t really be transmitted in writing) what actually happened during that exchange(s).
I’m sorry for what you’re going through, let me know your thoughts