Six Strategies for Effective Negotiation (Con’t)

Six Strategies for Effective Negotiation (Con’t)

This blog is a continuation of yesterday’s blog entry. It will give you two more easy strategies that you can follow to have a successful negotiation with your partner.   I will also include the “worksheet that I’ve put in the book for this section.

(5) Monitor yourself Notice when you start to get frustrated, angry, or tired.   If you’re starting to have strong negative feelings or are fatigued, take a break or, if possible, pick another time to discuss the issue.  If you stop the discussion, make sure to set aside another specific time.  Relationships suffer if important issues are shoved under the rug.   Two ways you can monitor yourself: A. Admit when you’re in a bad place B. Own up to it when you’ve made a mistake Showing vulnerability is surprisingly positive in strengthening your relationship.

(6) Monitor your Partner Notice when they have strong emotions.  See if you can figure out why they are having those feelings.  If you think you know what’s going on with your partner, check out your hunches:  ask them about those strong reactions and emotions. Work at being as responsive to those feelings as you possibly can.   You might say something like, “Let’s see if we can come up with something that will work for both of us.  Here are some things we can use as guidelines or a road map so we don’t get stuck.”   Tip: People often forget the issue, but they remember being upset, angry and having felt other negative feelings more than they remember the issue about which they were arguing. Attitudes & Emotions Check list Many of these attitudes and emotions are common sense, but under pressure we are distracted and forget how important these attitudes and emotions are. This chart can be used as a way to remind and rate your self about having the right attitudes and emotions.   Rate yourself: I’ve put this here to show you the checklist.  All the self-rating charts are also at the end of this book in the appendix for you to make copies. Attitudes & Emotions

Feel free to contact me if you would like additional explanation of the self rating chart below