The Brain and Successful Marriages
Part II – Evaluation: How do I know what personality type my partner is?
1. The Individualist*
In the next two blogs I will focus on “The Individualist” type as an example of how these types are identified and ways you can relate effectively with your partner if they are an “Individualist”.
Again here are the personality types, please refer back to yesterday’s blog to get a summary of these personality types.
1. The Individualist *
2. The Pessimist
3. The ADHD /Impulsive type
4. Obsessive Compulsive/Impulsive Type
* My names for these personality types
Here are the questions you can answer about your partner
Individualist
Feelings of sadness
(Very little) 1……….2…….. 3……….4………5 (A great deal)
Moodiness
(Very little) 1……….2…….. 3……….4………5 (A great deal)
Negativity
(Very little) 1……….2…….. 3……….4………5 (A great deal)
Low energy
(Very little) 1……….2…….. 3……….4………5 (A great deal)
Irritability
(Very little) 1……….2…….. 3……….4………5 (A great deal)
Decreased interest in others
(Very little) 1……….2…….. 3……….4………5 (A great deal)
Feelings of hopelessness about the future
(Very little) 1……….2…….. 3……….4………5 (A great deal)
Feelings of helplessness or powerless
(Very little) 1……….2…….. 3……….4………5 (A great deal)
Feeling bored
(Very little) 1……….2…….. 3……….4………5 (A great deal)
Feelings of guilt
(Very little) 1……….2…….. 3……….4………5 (A great deal)
Suicidal feelings
(Very little) 1……….2…….. 3……….4………5 (A great deal)
Total 11 – 13 not a problem
14 18 Moderate problem
19 + Needs attention
Use the scoring above to see if these characteristics
are a problem. In my next blog I will give examples
of ways to increase the quality of communication between you and your partner in relating to “The Individualist” personality type.
For effective relationship / couples counseling with these personality types please contact me for further discussion.
Dr. Marty
(732)246-8484