The First Step You Should Take to Stop a Divorce. (Part I of a IV part series).
This is the first in a four part series of important information for folks who are at the brink of ending their relationship.
The first step you should take is to stay calm.
People’s inclination is to panic, when you’re afraid that you are going to loose “everything”. Too often folks get frantic when they find out that their partner is seriously considering divorce. If you give in to panic, you may well do things that you will regret later. Panic may drive you to try too hard, to smother your partner. On the other hand, it is important to let your partner know that you are upset (not panicky), that you take the possibility of them ending the marriage very seriously and that you are going to work at making things right.
You may be inclined to reach out to find support to have someone as a sounding board. A note of caution is careful who you pick. In my next blog I will give you five criteria to look for to find a non- professional that can help you through this difficult time.
My next blog is geared toward getting additional support for a trusted person who is not a professional but is someone who cares about you. This person is not in place of therapist they are in addition to getting professional help. My third blog in this series will give four reasons why it’s important to find a professional; and the last blog in the series will offer some tools that can help you stop your divorce.