What’s Involved When Your Partner Won’t Let You Stop The Argument and Follows You around Your Home?
When I’ve suggested this to couples that I work that you leave the scene and go into another room, or even leave the house, the response is: “But he/ she follow me around the house” “He/She won’t leave me alone.
Often times for this strategy to work you have to do two things:
1. Just not respond, distract and or calm yourself (more on that in another blog), in other words don’t add more fuel to the fire.
2. Be patient and repeat this every time this situation arises, it may take a while but if you don’t reinforce this behavior by engaging in an intense argument, eventually (after 5 or 6 times) your partner will get the message, that they won’t get anything by following you around. If you’re not consistent with your response, your partner’s behavior will not stop and things will get worse.
It is important that you realize that your partner’s refusal to pursuing you no matter what even after numerous withdrawals on your part, as a real danger warning signal that your relationship is at risk and needs professional help.
If this kind of situation goes unchecked, it can lead to emotional abuse and even violence. Let’s hope it doesn’t get to that!