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A Dangerous Myth for a Relationship or Marriage  (Part II)


I hear the myth: We have two different personalities that’s why we can’t get along” so often that I wanted to add a little more about people with different personalities being and not being able to get along.


In this blog I will suggest behaviors and attitudes that can effectively bridge the gap of personality differences.


The first behavior is patience. Couples in couple’s therapy learn to be patient with their partner and not condemn them for being different.  People are the way they are for a variety of different reasons ranging from how they grew up to their physical energy level.  To realize that different isn’t bad it may even be uncomfortable for us but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong.


The second behaviors is self control, just because you feel like telling your partner off or really believe they are wrong, doesn’t mean you have to say what you are thinking.

When I am doing Marriage Counseling I often hear one or both of the people say: “Well I want to be honest.”  I heard one person say to their partner “You are a boring person and that’s one of the reasons I don’t want to be married to you”.


The third behavior is learning how to understand your partner. If the two of you have a disagreement or see things differently how you can really understand where they are coming from and what is important to them.


The point here is first understanding rather than having them understand you

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