Bi Polar Disorder (Part 1 of a 6 part series)
I have decided to dedicate the next week’s entries to Bi-Polar Disorders because I work with a number of people who have BPD. (Bi Polar Disorder). BPD has very negative effects on a relationship. There are no total cures but there are ways to effectively manage BPD and the next blogs will give you an idea of what can be done to help both the individual and the relationship survive this difficult situation.
As I get response from the couples that I am working with and from my blog, I will consider writing a manual for people with BPD and their partners, so please contact me with your reaction to my entries.
Definition of Bi Polar Disorder
Someone who is suffering from BPD will go through mood swings where on one side they have a high level of energy, overly optimistic, and their behavior is very hyper; on the other side the person is depressed (sometimes to the extreme level of being suicidal), they have a low energy level and are extremely pessimistic, perhaps anxious, sad, or guilty.
The conventional wisdom is that medication is advisable for this disorder. BPD can also have very negative effects on relationships as well. My next blog will be addressed to the partner of someone who has BPD and my last blog will talk about how the disorder itself can be treated.
The material that I will share with you I will take from my clinical experience with individuals and couple who are struggling with this issue on an individual level and as a couple.
Here are some of the books that I am also using as references that you can also use to get additional information:
Loving Someone With Bipolar Disorder by Julie fast and John Preston.
The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Bi Polar Disorder. By Jay Carter and Bobbi Dempsey
The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide. By David L Miklowitz.
When Someone You Love is Bipolar, by Cynthia Last.
Win The Battle: The 3-step Lifesaving Formula to conquer Depression and Bipolar Disorder by Bob Olsen
Finding Your Bi polar Muse by Lana Castle
Bipolar Disorder Demystified by Lana Castle
In my next blog, I will address the partner of the person who is Bi polar. I will start with that because in my experience, the partner is most influential in getting the person afflicted with BPD into therapy. Usually the
Person themselves is engaged in denial. They are especially resistant when they are in their “manic” phase and when they are in a depressive stage they lack the emotional energy to get themselves to go for help.
Here is a list of what the other blogs will cover:
Blog # 2 – Will be focused on the partner of the person
Blog # 3 – Is geared toward the person who is struggling with BPD their symptoms and triggers (what sets off BPD episodes)
Blog#4 – For the person with BPD
Blog #5 – Identifying your own triggers
Blog #6 – Working as team with meaningful others
Hi Dr. Marty,
I would love you to consider my publication for your list of reading material.
I am a retired nurse turned author, in the hope that my story would help others make less mistakes than I did. “A butterfly landed an eagle”, is available from amazon.com.
If my hindsight can become someones forsight to prevent the emotional damage of the children in the middle of the madness…then my book will have been worth the writing.
My husband was a doctor, but, he still lost everything, including his life in 2009. He was 55.BPD is no respector of religion either.
Thank you and thank God. I was able to move on.My 2nd book addresses the collateral damage in our four offspring; all adults now.
Thank you for your comments. I know it can be difficult dealing with someone with BPD. In the coming weeks I will be writing a blog(s)
on additional strategies to deal with BPD. if you would like to make an entry on my blog from your book on my blog feel free to contact me and I will be glad to put it up.
I would like to learn more about Bi-Polar. I had a son with it and he committed suicide on July 04, 2011. I need to know how to deal with the grief and how something like this can happen. His wife is having a hard time with it too. I really don’t know what to ask you except I need help with understanding it.
I am so sorry for your loss. Have you taken a look at my last post on BPD there is a bibliography there.
If you would like more, Please contact me directly.