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I’ve Cheated On My Partner, How do I Rebuild the Trust? (Save your relationship from infidelity)


The issue of infidelity is something that can be healed, with help from couples therapy.

I got the following question from someone who visited my site and asked me a question which folks can do in “Ask Dr. Marty” section on my home page.

The question about infidelity:

Dear Dr. Marty: 

Me & my fiancé are having problems! I cheated on her in the summer of 2011. I propose to her in December! But she’s still bringing up the issue of me cheating! How can we survive?  

Dr. Marty’s answer:

Here is what I tell folks in couples therapy when dealing with the issue of infidelity:

First, I would start with asking your fiancé what would make her feel reassured going forward?

Second, I would make an effort to be as open as possible about where you are when you’re not with her, your texts and your phone.

Your fiancé wants to make sure her heart isn’t broken and that she’s not being made a fool of. 


If nothing you do seems to help, it may be time for couples therapy.

It is time for counseling if nothing you do seems to help, because there may be something going on that the two of you are not able to put your finger on, aside from the issue of infidelity

You can find out more on Marriage Counseling and How to Save Your Relationship in this blog series:

For additional information on how to save your relationship, dealing with infidelity, and other issues of trust, you can go to my three part series(click here) : How to Rebuild Trust

For you my blog audience

What would your advice be? You can answer here or send it to me privately. The first three people who send me an answer today or tomorrow will get to pick one of my downloadable books for free.


You can also learn a lot more from my book:  

Healing From The Trauma of Infidelity: for the unfaithful partner


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