Getting Past Challenges in Creating an Active / Erotic Sex Life (Part two of a three Part Series)
In my next two blogs, in this series, I will first point out, in this blog three crucial issues that cause problems in couples’ sex lives; and then in my last blog talk about how to get past those issues.
My title “Getting Past Challenges in Creating an Active / Erotic Sex life” is both provocative and essential. One of the main complaints that couples have is that sex is routine, by definition erotic is not boring. Another difficulty couples have with their intimate life is that there is just not enough time. How ironic in the beginning of a relationship folks somehow find / make time for sex, but as a relationship ages, we just get to busy.
Another factor that is not usually mentioned; sometimes we just get “to angry” or “to resentful for sex”. This situation is more dominant for woman, as woman need to feel comfortable, safe, and connected to be sexually available. Men become closer after they are sexual. I want to be quick to note not all woman and all men are as I have described above, but the emotional situation described does hold true for most folks
Summary of the problem that couples face that hurts their sex life
- Over time sex can get boring
- There isn’t enough time to have sex
- We get to angry or resentful and then turn off to our partner.
Please note that these are not all the reasons for a lack of a good sex life and there is always the possibility that there are medical reasons for the problem, but the above reasons I believe effect 70 to 80% of relationships.
Read my next blog when I will talk about overcoming these blocks