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How to Have a Good Fight   (Part 2 of a 5 part series)

In the previous blog I talked about what it means to have a “bad” fight, in the next four blogs I’m going to give you six guidelines about how to have a “good” fight.  The purpose of this and the previous blog is to give folks an idea of what to do and what not to when having an argument.  Some people’s reaction to this subject are that I’m being too negative by talking about having a fight; but on second thought, every couple is going to fight, so the question is not whether or not a couple is going to have conflicts but how are the going to behave so that at the end of the battle the relationship will still be strong.

Here are two things that are constructive about fighting.

1. It is good to have a disagreement even a fight if it “clears the air”.  Some times couples hold back and they don’t forget they just store resentments that come out later when there is a fight.

2.  A good fight is not emotionally wounding.  The disagreements are respectful and are geared toward making a point not hurting your partner. It is important to remember long after the issue is forgotten the wounds can still be there.

In the next blog I will offer three more suggestions about how to have a “good fight”.

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