In my last entry on Thursday I gave the first part of my: “Positive Partner Awareness Inventory”(PPAI). I’m going to start off this week with the second part of the PPAI. Remember that it’s great to be able to get past arguments and difficult times, but the better we know our partner the stronger we’ll be able to make our relationship.
Please print this out and fill in on the lines provided
1. A special thing that I did for my partner was
____________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________
2. I tell my partner that I am proud of him/her: daily, weekly, monthly, I can’t remember. What did you say?
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________
3. I tell my partner that I care for him/her: daily, weekly, monthly. I can’t remember. What did you say?
_______________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
4. The gift that would put a smile on my partner’s face would be:
_________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
I’m wondering if you just read this quickly or actually spent time thinking about these questions. A relationship is like a bank account; the more you put into it the more you are likely to get out of it. You may want to give yourself an assignment of seeing what other things you know about your partner that can help them to feel as though you really care.
Learning about your partner is an on-going project. When you take them for granted they will feel that and when you make an effort to show you’re sensitive to what’s important to you’ve added something very valuable to your relationship.