Resiliency and Couples / Marriage Counseling
When I am counseling a couple that have problems, too often they focus exclusively on their complaints and past history; though this is part of therapy, for a relationship to improve, each person must:
- Move past complaints to being clear what they would like to hear from their partner
- Be is willing to approach their partner in a way that will make things better in the relationship rather than criticizing and blaming them.
If a relationship is to be a resilient each person must write, in their own mind, and use a positive script for them self in their day to day interaction with their mate.
What to do if being positive doesn’t work.
If couples have:
* Set goals for themselves in terms of approaching their partner in a positive way
* Created new scripts that are not accusing but talk about what they need and what is important to them.
then there are still major problems; and deeper, intense therapy is needed.
In my next blog I will go into detail about Marriage Counseling that goes into deeper levels that deal with: problems with childhood, intense negative feelings, and even addiction.
If you would like to learn more about saving your relationship feel free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or (723)246-8484