Before spending thousands of dollars dividing a life that you spent years building,
invest in understanding whether your marriage can be repaired.
One focused conversation will not guarantee reconciliation,
but it may give you clarity before attorneys, court filings
and two separate households become the next step.
Confidential. Practical. Focused on helping both partners understand
what is happening and what comes next.
Divorce has a filing cost. It has a lawyer cost. But it can
also create moving expenses, refinancing decisions, divided
retirement accounts, support disputes, additional childcare
needs and the ongoing cost of maintaining two households
instead of one.
There are marriages that cannot or should not continue.
But when two people are uncertain, overwhelmed or stuck in
the same destructive pattern, doing nothing is not neutral.
The conflict becomes more expensive emotionally,
relationally and financially.
$10,000 to $20,000
A commonly cited average range for the total cost of divorce
in the United States, with complex or contested cases
potentially costing substantially more.
$300
The New Jersey court filing fee for a divorce complaint,
before attorney time, experts, mediation, document
preparation or other expenses.
$363 per hour
The 2025 average hourly lawyer rate in New Jersey across
practice areas, according to Clio legal billing data.
When couples postpone a difficult but necessary conversation,
they often continue paying for the same unresolved problem
in different ways.
Escalating conflict
Resentment hardens, communication becomes defensive
and smaller disagreements begin carrying the weight
of years of frustration.
Financial decisions made under pressure
Housing, retirement, debt, parenting and legal
choices become harder when both partners are
already emotionally exhausted.
A shrinking window for repair
The longer destructive patterns continue, the more
difficult it can become for either partner to
believe meaningful change is possible.
Dr. Marty Tashman brings more than 35 years of experience helping
couples move beyond accusations and identify the patterns,
injuries and decisions underneath the conflict.
Create enough structure for both partners to speak
honestly without allowing the conversation to become
another argument.
Separate surface conflicts from deeper issues such as
trust, emotional disconnection, repeated betrayal,
avoidance or unmet expectations.
Determine whether there is a realistic path toward repair
and what each partner must do for that path to have a
genuine chance.
You do not have to promise that the marriage will survive.
You only have to decide that a decision this important deserves clarity.
A free 15 minute discovery call can help determine whether
Dr. Marty’s approach is appropriate for your situation.
The first step is not making a promise. It is finding out
whether there is still something worth rebuilding.
Important:
Counseling does not guarantee reconciliation and should never
be used to pressure someone to remain in an unsafe or abusive
relationship. This page provides general educational
information, not legal or financial advice. Couples
considering divorce should obtain legal and financial advice
appropriate to their circumstances.